Change

 

Those who felt the first pain of lockdown birthdays and such might very well experience the same, a year later. It’s the new normal with having COVID-19 in our lives and living in a pandemic is no longer a change to our situation, it seems. Has this intense time together and mandatory quarantine enhanced your relationship…or has it led you to think about separation or even divorce? Don’t panic, this is key. Everyone is struggling in their own way and if you feel at your wit’s end regarding your relationship, coaching might be the next step for you.

Your problems could relate to the lack of privacy that everyone is experiencing - whether ultimately happy or not. In addition to living on top of one another, the moments of escape that we might have taken for granted at one point in our lives, are no longer options available to us. A shopping spree with ‘the girls’ or the annual ‘guys holiday’ are not feasible in the current situation, meaning it is only harder to take time away from any hardships at home.

Even pastimes that could allow you to escape together and enjoy quality time mutually; where you could remember all the positives you have and share are limited. Holidays and other experiences are no longer possible and it’s this continuous staying at home, in the same environment for the foreseeable future that is definitely not helping anyones heightened emotions. COVID-19 is ever-changing and that in itself is leading to change within our own lives. We are being challenged every day and it’s constantly hard to find gratifications and positively manifest as we might have once done.

Now is the time to look closer within yourself and look at investing in the most important subject - you.

Investing in yourself requires a need for focus on you and your life - which, perhaps, you have been neglecting during these troubled times. The pandemic aside, we need to have plans and some kind of direction to move forwards and coaching can help with all areas of your life. 

Let this method of coaching be part of the investment you’re making in yourself and your marriage. You might find there are issues you need to work on - we all have them - that are stopping you and your marriage from reaching full potential, particularly in the time of this pandemic. Ending a marriage is not easy, especially where children are concerned and there’s no shame in admitting the emotional turmoil this kind of strain can cause.

But if there’s a chance that it is not the marriage itself that is the root of the problem and, instead, other factors bearing a burden your relationship, it is not fair to simply ‘throw in the towel’. Think of all the time and effort spent in planning a marriage and a wedding; give your marriage that same devotion before admitting defeat. Let this series of coaching offer an alternative to simply ending something that took so long to build.

Coaching can also allow you to expand your mind and explore all possibilities in safe space.

What can be a frustrating and daunting prospect can be thought about with some guidance and someone with whom to talk through these issues. We are all changing and sometimes that’s just it: people change and their journeys separate. Should divorce be the route you want to take, there are still things you might wish to discuss, now you’re about to embark on your own, single journey.

Divorce coaching can be your sounding board if you choose to rebuild and rehabilitate your marriage. If it isn’t, the next step you are looking at is to end the marriage and here, both clarity and organisation are both key. Whether you choose to fight for your marriage or accept 

 
Janette Brooker