This is the question that is most on people’s lips when I tell them I am a Divorce Coach. My answer is simple. We have coaches for many other things, so why would we try to work through one of life’s most emotional and stressful events without professional support?
The Coaching Industry is forever expanding as we become more aware of life challenges and mindful of our own path to an enriched life. With Divorce Coaching this is specifically for that whole journey and all the challenges that you are now faced with.
It has long been the case that when someone is considering divorce their first call is to find a lawyer. Talking to a lawyer is obviously a key requirement, to work out the legalities and financial settlement. However, there are many more factors at play - emotional, practical, help with understanding the process, and planning for a future life. Here’s how a Divorce Coach can help:
Use a Divorce Coach as your thinking partner
Going through marital challenges, whether they are out in the open or not, can cause a huge amount of stress and emotional upheaval. Having a confidential ‘thinking partner’ – to provide a safe space for you to consider your options can be a lifeline. It could be that you are not totally convinced that you should be going through with adivorce. There may be other issues to explore. A Divorce Coach can help you examine things from all angles to get to the root cause. Are you feeling that you are at your own personal crossroads in life and have no idea which way to turn? Working out what’s really going on is key in enabling you to move forward.
Having a space that is confidential is key. We all love talking to family and friends however at times like this its important to move away from the story of the divorce and not keep the emotion deep within us. This only delays decision making and holds us back from moving forward. Family and friends may not be able to advise or guide us, they are not always objective, and may be grieving themselves.
A Divorce Coach can help you get organised and make the right decisions
Going through a divorce can be one of life’s most stressful experience. There can be so many decisions to make, many that have far-reaching consequences. The stress in turn can stop you from thinking clearly, which can lead to bad decisions.
A Divorce Coach is there with you for every step of the way, your very own support system to help you see clearer and therefore make the right decisions. Someone to help you make a plan for moving forwards, with goals and tasks. This can save time in the long run, as you will move forward more confidently, knowing you are committed to achieving the best possible outcome in the shortest of time. When you do need to work with your lawyer, you will be clearer on the process and your requirements, having had time and space to consider them. This can help you save money too.
A Divorce Coach can help you to regain your Best Self
The events leading up to and during a divorce may not allow us to be our best selves, living our best lives. To help you move forward and regain your best self, these emotions will need working through. Whether anger, fear, or self-limiting beliefs, a Divorce Coach can work with you to address and dispel these emotions. This is important for you during the divorce process, but especially post-divorce, when you want to embrace a full and happy life and not remain stuck in the past. This is your time to turn dreams into reality and to begin again.
